family

Bismillah..

Today, I attended my cousin's nikah ceremony.

Have a mixed feeling for this one, in comparison with my brother's recent wedding.

Yesterday, I was forced to confront something, that adat (customs) can be a vicious hand forcing you to comply.

While I refused the adat in my brother's wedding

although I know I had to choose between Allah's redha and my relatives 

of course there's no competition and I stood affirm in my decision..

last night, I see

I see from their perspective

how much their adat-filled mind couldn't handle my 'rejection'

I wondered how I'd deal with my own (I don't know..possible own wedding in the future)

but I know I'd be fighting

..and I'll enjoy saying this

"who do you think I'd fear the most?"

"You or Allah swt?"

"Whose murka do you think I'd rather face?"

but I like the lafaz today

because the bride's own father was handling the ijab kabul part

and it was touching when he said

to make du'a for these two

that rather than shouting in celebration, he'd rather have "Alhamdulillah~" said when the ijab kabul is affirmed

MasyaAllah~ :")

Uda, you really looked cool today :")

before I left

he held me

longer than the usual and it made me wondered

he must've been sad, too

I don't know...of her daughter or of me, or both

Yes Uda, I'd make that du'a for them, too

May you have plenty of soleh and solehah in your daughter, sons and grandchildrens

make du'a for me too

in upholding my deen

of trying to show the right qudwah

so our families can understand

that in Jannah, only ties of faith matter rather than mere bloodlines

that can reunite a family in Jannah

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